
“As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord” (Joshua 24:15)
International Year of the Family
In 1994, I met some missionaries from the Alliance of the Holy Family, International (AHFI), a movement dedicated to the sanctification of families through the devotion to the Hearts of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph.
I believe it was no coincidence that I met them at Holy Family Church in Artesia, California, the year both Pope St. John Paul II and United Nations declared the International Year of the Family.
The Central Role of the Family in God’s Plan
The AHFI missionaries taught me the importance of the family in God’s Divine plan. Our Lord could have entered into our world as a full-grown adult possessing all material wealth and power, but instead, He chose to be born into a poor, humble family as a helpless babe. Through this act, God revealed the central role of the family in His plan of salvation.
The family is the basic unit of society where we first learn how to love and be loved. It is the foundation for learning how to build healthy, loving relationships, which is what life is all about.
The family is also known as a “domestic church” because it is the first place we learn about God and prayer. The first-century Christians called the family ecclesiola, which in Greek means “little church.”
Families Under Attack
The AHFI missionaries taught me about spiritual warfare and how the family is constantly under attack. The devil knows that there can be no true peace in the world if there is no true peace in our hearts and homes.
This idea resonated with me because I felt I had grown up in a war zone with constant yelling and fighting. We never really learned how to communicate with words of love or how to build healthy relationships.
Unfortunately, many families around the world are broken and dysfunctional to varying degrees. As a result, many individuals, including myself, never learned how to love or be loved.
Hope and Healing for Families
Although our families may not be perfect, it is essential to know that there is hope and healing for each of us, including family members who seem too far gone. God can heal our brokenness and make us whole if we allow Him.
We are all part of a much bigger family who can help us build a culture of love and guide us in our spiritual journey toward heaven.
To show us how to build healthy, loving relationships with God and one another, Our Lord gave us the Holy Family as a model for all families. Through the hearts of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, we can learn how to be united in love, “being one in spirit and of one mind” (Phil. 2:2).
Though each family member has a different role to play, the Holy Family can teach us how to work together with the common goal of loving and serving God and neighbor.
Letter to Families from JP2
The following is an excerpt from Pope St. John Paul II’s Letter to Families during the 1994 Year of the Family:
The history of mankind, the history of salvation, passes by way of the family. In these pages I have tried to show how the family is placed at the centre of the great struggle between good and evil, between life and death, between love and all that is opposed to love. To the family is entrusted the task of striving, first and foremost, to unleash the forces of good, the source of which is found in Christ the Redeemer of man. Every family unit needs to make these forces their own so that, to use a phrase spoken on the occasion of the Millennium of Christianity in Poland, the family will be “strong with the strength of God“. This is why the present Letter has sought to draw inspiration from the apostolic exhortations found in the writings of Paul (cf. 1 Cor 7:1-40; Eph 5:21-6:9; Col 3:25) and the Letters of Peter and John (cf. 1 Pet 3:1-7; 1 Jn 2:12-17). Despite the differences in their historical and cultural contexts, how similar are the experiences of Christians and families then and now!
. . . May the Holy Family, icon and model of every human family, help each individual to walk in the spirit of Nazareth. May it help each family unit to grow in understanding of its particular mission in society and the Church by hearing the Word of God, by prayer and by a fraternal sharing of life. May Mary, Mother of “Fairest Love”, and Joseph, Guardian of the Redeemer, accompany us all with their constant protection.
With these sentiments I bless every family in the name of the Most Holy Trinity: Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
Given in Rome, at Saint Peter’s, on 2 February, the Feast of the Presentation of the Lord, in the year 1994, the sixteenth of my Pontificate. John Paul II
(Click here if you would like to read the whole letter)
Welcome to the Family
I learned many more wonderful things about my faith from the AHFI missionaries, including some beautiful praise and worship songs. One of my favorites is called “Welcome to the Family” (by Ernie & Debbie K. Rettino). It is a children’s song, but adults may also enjoy it. The AHFI missionaries taught us the action song version with sign language.
St. Augustine, one of the greatest Christian thinkers from the 4th century, said, “He who sings prays twice.” The AHFI missionaries added, “He who sings with action, prays thrice!” Below are the lyrics to “Welcome to the Family” (If you would like to hear the tune and sing along, click here):
Welcome to the family, we’re glad that you have come
to share your life with us as we grow in LOVE and
May we always be to you what God would have us be
A family always there to be strong and to lean on.May we learn to LOVE each other more with each new day.
May words of LOVE be on our lips in everything we say.
May the Spirit melt our hearts and teach us how to pray,
That we might be a true family.